Where can I find a Love Life?

I’m 22 years old, 23 at the end of this year, and I’ve never been in a relationship. No dates. No hand holding. No kisses. No … I think you get the picture.

So, does anyone know where to find a love life?

To put things into perspective.. I don’t even have any male friends. I can count my total amount of friends on one hand, so the chances of me meeting someone through a friend is not going to happen.No-Life-Without-Love - Lauren Mayhew Authir

Anyway, the guys that I do know through family are not the sort of people I would even want to be seen with anyway. One word: drugs. I think that says it all.

I’ve talked about this with my sister and cousins before, but I’ve never really cared that much about it. I am happy. But one day I would like to have children and that doesn’t look like its going to happen. I can’t help but get a little emotional as I write this now.

Where can I find a man who’s idea of fun is not smoking weed?

I’ve tried online dating. I mean, I sign up one day and delete my account only a few hours later. I get a bit freaked out when men aged 50+ start sending me messages. In my opinion, the only people who should be able to message me or even see my profile are people who fit my search criteria. I’m sure there are many lovely and caring 50+ men out there, but I don’t want them to be my first love.

I don’t want to meet someone at a club. They’re usually too drunk (and I don’t drink) and only after one thing, which they’re obviously not going to get from me…

Going to pubs isn’t the same as it was a few years ago. People go there to socialise with their own friends. Not to meet new people.

Overall, I seem to have no chance whatsoever. Where can you meet a man when there is nowhere to go to meet them? If you have any suggestions, please let me know!


I just don’t get approached by men. I don’t think I’m an ugly person. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying I’m beautiful either.

That’s me in the picture. No make-up and hair a bit of a mess. That pretty much describes me every day, except I wear glasses too. I only wear make-up when I go to a party or special event. Partly because I’m too lazy to put it on, but also because I don’t want to hide behind a mask.

I can be shy when you first meet me and you’d be lucky to get me to look you in the eye (I’m getting better at that though). If you look up ‘awkward’ in the dictionary, you will find my picture there. No jokes. On occasions, I have even developed a stammer when meeting new people.

If you do have any idea where I can meet a decent man, let me know.

To finish this very strange and out of the blue post, when I was looking for my header image I saw something that said: “Pick up the closest book to you and open it to page 45. The first sentence sums up your love life.”

It said: “…used as a basis for the stories that we tell to each other in waking life, particularly in our fairy tales, myths and legends.”

I’ll leave it at that.


5 thoughts on “Where can I find a Love Life?

  1. Oh God, its like reading some of my thoughts! I’m not a club person either. I have many male friends but no guy seemed to be interesting enough. I am no relationship expert (hell, no!) but some of my close friends had enough for us all 🙂 First: You said it. You’re happy and you are a pretty and I bet a really interesting person! (You are writing. If thats not awesome I don’t know) and meeting new people is always better when its warmer out there (on my side of the earth its freezing cold so I’m not sure where you’re from :)) And I know this sounds stupid but all I do for meeting new people is going on partys of my colleges or with my friends and it doesn’t work out really good hahaha. But maybe you’ll find a guy in your library or in the park where you’re reading a book 🙂 (nothing is more attractive than people reading books) … I should probably stop here. I’m just babbling :$ Have nice day!


    1. Thank you so much! College parties for me were the worst! I live in England and it’s pretty cold here, but I have been thinking about finding a little cafe somewhere to write, so maybe I could bump into someone ther 🙂 Thanks for you advice.

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      1. Imagine me just feeling lost inbetween all these drunk people. I had to drive so no drinks for me. It’s a miracle that my nerves survived this 😀 England? Thats cool! The café idea is good maybe I should try it too … Just with reading instead lf writing 😉 … But it’ll be hard to find a nice place in Frankfurt where there is no Starbucks ;D


      2. I didn’t have to drive, I just don’t drink. I feel for your nerves! England’s ok i suppose… I have the Starbucks problem too, but we also have lots of Costas. Let me know how the cafe goes for you 🙂

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